January 22, 2018

Teenage Dating

Teenage DatingHi all – Mama Juju has a bit of a bee in her bonnet. The buzz is teenage dating. It’s like this –

The hubby and I decided when our kiddos were itty bitty babies that we wanted our kids to be emotionally mature before they took themselves a beau (or beauette). To us, emotionally mature meant able to treat the other person the way they wanted to be treated. Great idea right?

There lies the problem! Like all other ‘before you have kids of your own’ brilliant ideas, this one had a major flaw. PUBERTY! It all started about 5th grade. Up to then girls/boys had cooties or were the friends you played with in the neighborhood. All of sudden, kids were pairing off – or “going out” as they labeled it. We asked them where they were going. Rolled eyes were our answers.

Enter Junior High. The cesspool of hormones and I had to have eyes in the back of my head to keep up. We did all we could – you can be friends, you can hang out here, you can hang out together in groups, invite them to youth group, etc. etc. It felt like we were just pushing them to sneak behind our back.

And then #1 came and told us he really liked this girl in high school and could they please be close friends?! So we slowly meandered that road, which was plainly hard to navigate with our best laid plans. Several friends later, we realized that while we can help teach ours the Golden Rule, we have no say on their friends emotionally maturity. Broken hearts abounded.

And 3 years later, we are hanging on and adjusting as we go. Hoping that they will buy into our waiting. But with #3 and #4 (both 14) boldly claiming their close friends as their girlfriends, not sure they are getting it!

What’s your alls take on this?

Chat soon!

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Julie is an awesome parent (along with her husband Matt) to five adopted kiddos and the owner of the Parenting Allies website.

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  1. My daughter is 14 years old now and don’t hear anything about dating from her. But like you, my husband and I prepared ourselves when dating time come.
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