October 19, 2017

Holidays Schmolidays

Something that seems to be common amongst adoptive families is tough holidays. It is prone to make one grinchly be heard to say “holidays schmolidays”!! It is hard to watch the warm, sweet commercials with huge family dinners, perfect present giving, and snowball fights when you are trying to hold a child together who is struggling. […]

Celebrating the Holidays with Adopted Children

Most of us had visions of sugar plums dancing in our heads when we adopted our kiddos. For some of us, it didn’t take too many Christmases to realize that these young lovelies had different ideas of celebrating the holidays. School = trauma. Playing with friends = trauma. Sleeping = trauma. Holidays = trauma. LOVE […]

5 Things to Say to Someone Adopting

Recently I read an article written by a sweet mom who was in the process of adopting. She shared the crazy things people have said to her. They went on to list 5 things NOT to say to someone adopting. It was good advice. Being on this side of adoption – 21 years later – […]

Respite Care for Adopted Children – Part 2 Finding Respite Care

In my article Respite Care for Adopted Children, I stressed the need to have respite set up both for the child and for us as parents. The next step is finding appropriate respite care. This is the biggest problem because not everyone is fit to do healing (or at the very least – place holding) […]

Searching for My Birth Mom

Hi all – Lately I have been seeing lots of these posts on Facebook where someone searching for birth parents is holding a sign similar to ones you see on the street corners asking for $. And I am somewhat struggling with this. Now don’t get me wrong. I am not at all against adopted […]

Respite Care for Adopted Children

Continuing on the Adoption: Let’s Be Honest series, I wanted to talk about respite care for adopted children. This is a hard subject for some mostly because it feels like defeat when we need to ask for a break. But we do sometimes need a break if we have children that are struggling with attachment […]

Open Adoption or Closed Adoption

Hi All – When my man and I were first discussing adopting, we had one huge decision to make. Drumroll please…do we have an open adoption or closed adoption? In our series Adoption: Let’s Be Honest, this is one topic that cannot go unnoticed. Because it involves interacting with birth families. And this is messy […]

Therapeutic Parenting Techniques

Next up in the Adoption: Let’s Be Honest series is therapeutic parenting techniques. Sounds like some hocus pocus language, right? That is what I thought too! I was so confused about why my parenting instincts seemed to be way off the mark at the most critical moments. I didn’t normally yell, wasn’t a belitter, didn’t […]

Emotional Issues After Adoption

In my series of Adoption: Let’s Be Honest, I want to address the emotional issues after adoption. There are many and they, of course, vary by child and family. But there are some commonalities that can be looked at. Namely, their emotions surrounding their parents, both birth and adopted. My 5 kids each feel differently […]

Movement Therapy for Adopted/Foster Children

I shared with you in my series Adoption: Let’s Be Honest, that I would be giving parents looking to adopt or having adopted tools to be prepared when the pain of these children comes out. Today, we are looking at movement therapy for adopted/foster children. Because trauma in children manifests itself in many different ways, […]

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