Hi all –
Lately I have been seeing lots of these posts on Facebook where someone searching for birth parents is holding a sign similar to ones you see on the street corners asking for $. And I am somewhat struggling with this.
Now don’t get me wrong. I am not at all against adopted kiddos finding birth families, done it myself with my own. What I struggle with is this very private information being shown for all the world to see. I don’t know why but it seems to have the potential to do way more damage than good. Again its not the searching, it is the public way of doing it.
I don’t know, but if the reverse were true (and I have seen birth parents looking for their kiddos too), and it was my kiddo they were looking for, well that bugs me a lot!
A lot of hard choices were made in that life changing moment years ago, no matter how it appears. And everyone was forever changed. I think I would like to see that taken into consideration in the searching.
There are places that you can post privately your search and that are free and it ensures that both parties are open and willing to take that next step.
I guess that parenting traumatized kiddos has made me super alert to the potential of further traumatizing them. Just my loving mama’s 2 cents today.
Take care of yourselves.