January 22, 2018

It’s Too Easy!

Your report card said you got a 2.8 this semester. I thought you told me that your classes were so easy!

You have had 4 unexcused tardies this semester. But Mom, jazz is too easy!

Hi all – this is a glimpse in to a few of the gazillion conversations I had with a couple of my kiddos this week.  These stand out because the sheer lack of logic. And they stand by their reason, um or excuse! The one even said he’d do better next semester because he will have harder classes. Ok, what planet am I on?

Trying to figure out why they wouldn’t just ace these classes to give themselves some margin if they came across very hard to eek out a good grade kinda classes. Didn’t I teach them to have some forethought? Pretty sure I probably overtaught this principle because I have struggled as an adult with being caught unaware and I have the therapist bills to prove it! Where oh where did I go wrong?

Part of me thinks that I am using adult logic to explain teenager behavior. Part of me thinks they might just be testing their independence muscle – if mom says so – DON’T  do it. All this adds up to learning the hard way. Bummer, for them! And a bit frustrating for me, I must admit!!

The closest I got to getting a straight up answer was – “it’s boring”. Boring?! What about determination, finishing well, blah blah blah (like dogs that is what teenagers hear you know!).

Chat soon!

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Julie is an awesome parent (along with her husband Matt) to five adopted kiddos and the owner of the Parenting Allies website.

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  1. I remember that one well. I remember thinking, “that’s the strangest cop-out I ever heard.” I even remember trying to use their logic back on him: “OK well if it’s that easy then you didn’t even need to study to get an A, right? So what do you think should be a consequence for NOT bringing home an A when the test is too easy? The result? Umm I’d like to be able to tell you that it got higher grades. But that’s not what eventually did the trick. I had to satisfy myself with the fact that at least, I didn’t get THAT excuse again.

  2. It is really hard when we are in this kind of situation. We always asked ourselves where did we go wrong? But in reality as parents we gave them all the support they need it is really with them to be responsible enough.
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